Happiness in the Face of Saddness

June 4, 2014
By far, this last year has challenged me to remain in my 'happy' state despite extremely sad occurrences in my life.
The last few weeks marked sad anniversaries for me, followed by the sudden passing of a friend in the prime of his life. Events like this do make me sad. I do cry, mope, get depressed about it all. But there is something in me that makes me work on changing that mood despite the sadness. I just 'know' that we are not put here to remain sad, depressed or angry for very long. I think it's because, if I look at the whole scheme of life, that the GOOD far outweighs the bad. I am grateful to have had wonderful parents, despite the fact that they are no longer with us in the physical world. I am beyond upset and a bit angry about losing my friend Erik, but I am grateful to have known him in my life. His passing has also put me in touch with other past friends/co-workers who really liked and cared about him too. This reaffirms my faith in people in general. Sometimes we can take situations into our own hands and make things better. Other times, it's out of our hands. Then again, I look for ways to soften the 'hurt' for those left behind. Sharing a lost letter, email, or memory with those around me helps myself and friends and family. Yes, I chose to be happy despite rough and challenging times. Sometimes it's a bit of work to 'get there.' But its always worth it, and I know they'd want me to be happy.
 

Challenges

May 14, 2014
I haven't written in this blog for a while. Personal issues with aging parents for many years distracted me completely. Much of my energy was gathering up strength for myself, then for them. This last year saw the passing of both my beloved parents. There are no regrets, and they were surrounded by family and love for many years. Following this, I had the details of their 'estate' to work out, complicated by the fact that they passed within 4 months of each other. Then- silence. I was left wi...
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How Do You Really Affect People?

January 5, 2010
Wow. I suppose this can be a scary thought..."How do I affect people?" is a question that many of us may not want to answer. We are all out there, trying to find our way in the world, trying to survive, trying to make the best of things for our family and friends, right? But what is your influence? How do people really perceive you? What influence do you have on those around you? Do you like to complain? Do you recognize some of the negativity that comes our of your mouth on a regular basis? ...
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Learn to Be Your Own Best Friend

November 17, 2009
I once struggled with self esteem issues. (Who hasn't?) I was able to read and study my way out of my poor perception of myself, but not everyone has the time, energy or resources to do so. So let me challenge your perception for a moment. Do you have a best friend? What do they think of you? Do you respect them and their opinions? Do you think they'd be best friends with someone who didn't have value? Your best friend is probably pretty smart, and HAPPY they know you. You know, there are a l...
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Evaluating Your Associations

November 16, 2009

by Jim Rohn

(I'm a huge fan of Jim Rohns, and this is a fab article, so I thought I'd let him do the talking today! ~ Happigal)

If you were to evaluate the major influences in your life that have shaped the kind of person you are, this has to be high on the list: the people and thoughts you choose to allow into your life. My mentor Mr. Shoaff gave me a very important warning in those early days that I would like to share with you. He said, “Never u...


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Infectious Smiling

October 27, 2009
I was visiting a hospital recently, and, certainly they have their fair share of challenges and stressful situations on a daily basis. The elevator opened and was filled with anxious, dour faced people in painful situations. But I was in an exceptionally good mood one day, and at first, this group took me aback. Then, I decided not to join them, but rather to walk in with a big smile on my face- and I looked people in the eye. Well, it turned out to be a breath of fresh air for them! Very qui...
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Optimist Doesn't Mean Naive

October 20, 2009
People sometimes mistake a happy, upbeat, optimistic attitude with lack of common sense or someone who is naive. But I honestly believe it's a mistake to walk around dreading life, assuming it's all just a huge, long struggle and that we are meant to suffer on a daily basis. Life is what ever you make of it. There are countless stories of people who had nothing and created a life of abundance for themselves and helped others. They had to 'envision' it first before making it happen for themsel...

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